{"id":352,"date":"2016-11-10T09:22:20","date_gmt":"2016-11-10T09:22:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lutfialfandra.my.id\/?p=352"},"modified":"2019-03-10T17:54:13","modified_gmt":"2019-03-10T17:54:13","slug":"andaikan-kamu-ditolak-lamaran","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.lutfialfandra.my.id\/index.php\/2016\/11\/10\/andaikan-kamu-ditolak-lamaran\/","title":{"rendered":"Andaikan kamu ditolak lamaran"},"content":{"rendered":"
Di suatu pagi, di sebuah rumah, di sebuah ruang tamu, seorang
\nlelaki muda menghadapi seorang lelaki setengah baya, untuk \u2018merebut\u2019
\nsang perempuan muda, dari sisinya.\u201dOh, jadi engkau yang akan melamar itu?\u201d tanya sang setengah baya.
\n\u201cIya, Pak,\u201d jawab sang muda.\u201cEngkau telah mengenalnya dalam-dalam? \u201d tanya sang setengah baya
\nsambil menunjuk si perempuan.<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
\u201cYa Pak, sangat mengenalnya, \u201d jawab sang muda, mencoba meyakinkan.
\n\u201cLamaranmu kutolak. Berarti engkau telah memacarinya sebelumnya? Tidak
\nbisa. Aku tidak bisa mengijinkan pernikahan yang diawali dengan model
\nseperti itu!\u201d balas sang setengah baya.Si pemuda tergagap, \u201cEnggak kok pak, sebenarnya saya hanya kenal
\nsekedarnya saja, ketemu saja baru sebulan lalu.\u201d\u201cLamaranmu kutolak Itu serasa \u2018membeli kucing dalam karung\u2019 kan, aku
\ntakmau kau akan gampang menceraikannya karena kau tak mengenalnya.
\nJangan-jangan kau nggak tahu aku ini siapa?\u201d balas sang setengah baya,
\nkeras.Ini situasi yang sulit. Sang perempuan muda mencoba membantu sang
\nlelaki muda. Bisiknya, \u201cAyah, dia dulu aktivis lho.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cKamu dulu aktivis ya?\u201d tanya sang setengah baya.
\n\u201cYa Pak, saya dulu sering memimpin aksi demonstrasi anti Orba di
\nKampus,\u201d jawab sang muda, percaya diri.
\n\u201cLamaranmu kutolak.<\/p>\n

Nanti kalau kamu lagi kecewa dan marah sama
\nistrimu, kamu bakal mengerahkan rombongan teman-temanmu untuk mendemo
\nrumahku ini kan?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cAnu Pak, nggak kok. Wong dulu demonya juga cuma kecil-kecilan. Banyak
\nyang nggak datang kalau saya suruh berangkat.\u201d
\n\u201cLamaranmu kutolak. Lha wong kamu ngatur temanmu saja nggak bisa, kok
\nmau ngatur keluargamu?\u201d<\/p>\n

Sang perempuan membisik lagi, membantu, \u201cAyah, dia pinter lho.\u201d
\n\u201cKamu lulusan mana?\u201d
\n\u201cSaya lulusan Teknik Elektro UGM Pak. UGM itu salah satu kampus
\nterbaik di Indonesia lho Pak.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cLamaranmu kutolak. Kamu sedang menghina saya yang cuma lulusan STM
\nini tho? Menganggap saya bodoh kan?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cEnggak kok Pak. Wong saya juga nggak pinter-pinter amat Pak. Lulusnya
\nsaja tujuh tahun, IPnya juga cuma dua koma Pak.\u201d
\n\u201cLha lamaranmu ya kutolak. Kamu saja bego gitu gimana bisa mendidik
\nanak-anakmu kelak?\u201d<\/p>\n

Bisikan itu datang lagi, \u201cAyah dia sudah bekerja lho.\u201d
\n\u201cJadi kamu sudah bekerja?\u201d
\n\u201cIya Pak. Saya bekerja sebagai marketing. Keliling Jawa dan Sumatera
\njualan produk saya Pak.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cLamaranmu kutolak. Kalau kamu keliling dan jalan-jalan begitu, kamu
\nnggak bakal sempat memperhatikan keluargamu.\u201d
\n\u201cAnu kok Pak. Kelilingnya jarang-jarang. Wong produknya saja nggak
\nterlalu laku.\u201d
\n\u201cLamaranmu tetap kutolak. Lha kamu mau kasih makan apa keluargamu,
\nkalau kerja saja nggak becus begitu?\u201d<\/p>\n

Bisikan kembali, \u201cAyah, yang penting kan ia bisa membayar maharnya.\u201d
\n\u201cRencananya maharmu apa?\u201d
\n\u201cSeperangkat alat shalat Pak.\u201d
\n\u201cLamaranmu kutolak. Kami sudah punya banyak. Maaf.\u201d
\n\u201cTapi saya siapkan juga emas satu kilogram dan uang limapuluh juta Pak.\u201d
\n\u201cLamaranmu kutolak. Kau pikir aku itu matre, dan menukar anakku dengan
\nuang dan emas begitu? Maaf anak muda, itu bukan caraku.\u201d<\/p>\n

Bisikan, \u201cDia jago IT lho Pak\u201d
\n\u201cKamu bisa apa itu, internet?\u201d
\n\u201cOh iya Pak. Saya rutin pakai internet, hampir setiap hari lho Pak
\nsaya nge-net.\u201d
\n\u201cLamaranmu kutolak. Nanti kamu cuma nge-net thok. Menghabiskan
\nanggaran untuk internet dan nggak ngurus anak istrimu di dunia nyata.\u201d
\n\u201cTapi saya ngenet cuma ngecek imel saja kok Pak.\u201d
\n\u201cLamaranmu kutolak. Jadi kamu nggak ngerti Facebook, Blog, Twitter,
\nYoutube? Aku nggak mau punya mantu gaptek gitu.\u201d<\/p>\n

Bisikan, \u201cTapi Ayah\u2026\u201d
\n\u201cKamu kesini tadi naik apa?\u201d
\n\u201cMobil Pak.\u201d
\n\u201cLamaranmu kutolak. Kamu mau pamer tho kalau kamu kaya. Itu namanya
\nRiya\u2019. Nanti hidupmu juga bakal boros. Harga BBM kan makin naik.\u201d
\n\u201cAnu saya cuma mbonceng mobilnya teman kok Pak. Saya nggak bisa nyetir\u201d
\n\u201cLamaranmu kutolak. Lha nanti kamu minta diboncengin istrimu juga? Ini
\nnamanya payah. Memangnya anakku supir?\u201d<\/p>\n

Bisikan, \u201cAyahh..\u201d
\n\u201cKamu merasa ganteng ya?\u201d
\n\u201cNggak Pak. Biasa saja kok\u201d
\n\u201cLamaranmu kutolak. Mbok kamu ngaca dulu sebelum melamar anakku yang
\ncantik ini.\u201d
\n\u201cTapi pak, di kampung, sebenarnya banyak pula yang naksir kok Pak.\u201d
\n\u201cLamaranmu kutolak. Kamu berpotensi playboy. Nanti kamu bakal selingkuh!\u201d<\/p>\n

Sang perempuan kini berkaca-kaca, \u201cAyah, tak bisakah engkau tanyakan
\nsoal agamanya, selain tentang harta dan fisiknya?\u201d
\nSang setengah baya menatap wajah sang anak, dan berganti menatap sang
\nmuda yang sudah menyerah pasrah.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

\u201cNak, apa adakah yang engkau hapal dari Al Qur\u2019an dan Hadits?\u201d
\nSi pemuda telah putus asa, tak lagi merasa punya sesuatu yang berharga.<\/div>\n
Pun pada pokok soal ini ia menyerah, jawabnya, \u201cPak, dari tiga puluh
\njuz saya cuma hapal juz ke tiga puluh, itupun yang pendek-pendek saja.
\nHadits-pun cuma dari Arba\u2019in yang terpendek pula.\u201d<\/div>\n
Sang setengah baya tersenyum, \u201cLamaranmu kuterima anak muda.
\nItu cukup. Kau lebih hebat dariku. Agar kau tahu saja, membacanya saja
\npun, aku masih tertatih.\u201dMata sang muda ikut berkaca-kaca.
\nAlhamdulillah\u2026<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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